Adventures of Mr.Behi

Smiling

I hope like me, you have found or will find someone in your life to discover it with. Some one so close that you forget the time prior than the moment you first met. Someone with the same vision in life as yours and a way of picturing it that is out of your reach. Someone with whom you remember the places you have been when you play the music you heard there...especially if you are like me who does not have this ability. Someone with whom you revisit the past, watch the present and grow old in future. I hope like me, you have someone like Mrs.Behi. she is just about to enter a new decade of her life and while the only thing I can think of is where we will be by the dawn of the next decade for me, I am joyfully being touched by what Mrs.Behi imaged in her birthday. Happy birthday love...

Will you let it go?

It is like an epidemic feeling. When I was inside Iran, reading blogs of Iranians living outside, I could feel a certain degree of exaggeration or if not, an elevated level of sensitivity towards unpleasant political and social news in Iran. Now that I am rather outside, I guess I am getting covered by the same shadow.
The pathetic habit of media in bringing all the ugly in front of me makes this shadow much darker and more scary. Will Iran ever become what we are hoping for her to be? and what are we hoping for anyway? under the shadow, in the darkness, in search of what we are moving our hands so desperately.

Sadly, Iranian government is like an angry gangster that always avenges its owns citizens. They claim they are "Islamic" but they act so harsh to people. If you are an intellectual, you are a spy, if you are a cleric who does not like them, you are "diverted". If are young and want to be just young, you are "made fool by the enemy". I do not want to generalize and be like those who give a picture of Iran as if it is hell...it is not...but the government should just let people live as they want...they can not suffer from economic disasters AND more sanctions AND threat of war AND social restriction AND ban in normal stuff AND censorship AND lack of freedom of speech AND political limitation and and... will you please let it go in one area at least?

While I am getting more into work these days, too busy to write, Mrs.Behi is busy writing. Today she wrote about what she would be involved with if we were in Tehran (read her insights here).

Perhaps I should just give up nagging for the moment. We have rented new movies that we want to watch and it is 10:30 p.m after a long day. I need to go back to Mrs.Behi and did you know how cute she was when she was little? see this

The extra dimension

Link: My Mind Room: Before and After.

One of the nice things that I love so much about Mrs.Behi is the way she always tries to understand people...what they do and how and why they do things. For me as a person who is kind of shallow in this regard, this is a valuable dimension in life. I always drive nodding and thinking while she shares all her interesting interpretations about people she has met or read about...and I think to myself..."How come I never realized this?"

New Room for Mrs.Behi

Many of posts here are about things I did or places I went together with Mrs.Behi. Even most of the political and socials talks come in writing before or after our daily chats about the subjects. She is by far the most dedicated reader of this blog and since while ago, has also been a guest writer here. Now she started a blog of her own while staying as guest writer here. The blog is named "My Mind ROOM" where she will be writing about her insights and ideas.

The signature !

From Mrs.Behi: I’ve heard, when the theory is getting ahead of the action, it’s the most unfortunate time... I think it might be Leonardo Davinchi’s saying.

These days I’ve been trying to release my Bachelor certification so I had to go to the different segments related to this subject in my university, today after getting several signatures from the head of the faculty, the head of the department and also other people who were in charge of doing this, it was time to get the final signature from the head of the university. I was happy of thinking after those frustrating processes I finally could be able to get my certification but in fact, I had no idea what was the actual thing which I was expecting for?  Meanwhile of telling this story I should say that it was necessary for me to supervise the whole process, otherwise the procedure could take like three months instead of just one month!

I was waiting for almost four hours for this golden signature and every time I asked his secretary to give my document to him, he treated me with absolute carelessness, the head of the university didn’t have any time to use his fingers for like one minute to sign, during each single hour. Here are the reasons: the first two hours he had a meeting in his room, the next hour he had his lunch break and also he needed to pray, and for the last hour I could not ask for the third time because there was the possibility of making him angry according to the staff of the department ! So I just let your imaginations to find the final reason.

The head of our university is a mullah and I think this is the first time that University of Tehran, instead of a real educated person for this position has to experience this person!
Apparently, he has to talk and talk and just talk because being so theoretical and verbal without any practical consideration has been the main part of this kind of people’s job for a long time and this is an unfortunate period to me and many other students like me.

Today, at the end of my waiting project I was about to well up, as a matter of fact I don’t have enough time to be ignored like this and I need my degree as soon as possible, in the evening I was just angry and now, I hope to not having the similar experience the next time.

Here is my main goal for... I don't know how long: a signature !!   

I'm doing good...

From Mrs.Behi : During the last three months my mind was busy with different things like being apart from Mr.Behi every now and then, trying to concentrate and do the stuff that I’ve been supposed to do because of the whole moving to another country’s matter, trying to find the best perspective on the subject of being apart from my family in near future in which, I would avoid myself from the negative thoughts and manage the sad feelings and trying to find out what can I do to make the most of staying in Libya and what are my responsibilities as an individual person for my inside world and as a person who is the wife of our small family and also a little friend of Mr.Behi.

Now I can open my eyes to the coming world full of new adventures, people and cultures which is really exciting. I have my new plans; I cannot explain how much I am eager to see them to be made. I wish I could spread the exact joy that I’m feeling right now to all people, no matter I know them or not...

Something to be proud of !

From Mrs.Behi:  There is a special admiration for living in the west for most Iranians! You can recognize it easily when they start talking about their visits even for a short time or their relatives who live there which seems so funny in some levels because they try to hide their pride while they definitely are trying to inform you the fact of being related to these "successful people" who have been enough smart to live in these developed countries :-). The interesting fact is that even the religious people who generally have some criticisms of the western life style, have the same approach too.

I don’t know how this subject would be different for other nationalities or if there are some similar subjects to the western people to be proud of or not but I think this attitude started to begin almost when Iranians realized that they were called as a member of third world countries. Maybe in future when people look at history; they learn about this state as a part of Iranian transition state, I hope future generations will have more enthusiasm for living in our home country.

From now on, NO fear

From Mrs.Behi: Every time I look at one experience that happened in my educational life, I can understand why sometimes I concern too much about the consequences of my plans so that I stop myself from moving furthers, I think the main reason for being such a conservative person in some areas is the fear of not doing things perfectly and this eventually prevents me to welcome "change"  Now I just know that the most important action to me is to minimize my fears so I can actually see my plans that have been hidden sometimes behind them. I’ve been always interested in knowing my true self but when you try to be honest with yourself as well; it’s time to smash the destructive routines.

Well, today after a kind of long break that I gave to myself, I had the story of fear to share with you; I took a little courage to confess about it, it could be the sign of  starting "my smash" ;-).

We will change!

From Mrs.Behi: The first time that I traveled abroad, I understood the real meaning of one word with all its parts: ISOLATION, in fact I was surprised by the perfect source of books, magazines, movies, music and internet that during the trip I never saw these words every now and then, after different clicks on it: "the page that you've requested, has been blocked because of the authority’s order". For passing over the restrictions like this we have to be creative with more complicated minds. Being creative is fine but when it turns to the act of escaping from many rules as a sign of cleverness would be a disaster for flourishing of a society. I think there is a history behind the place that many regular Iranians are standing at the moment; it means, turning away from even the good rules is not a kind of action which has been happening only in period of "Islamic Republic of Iran". Experiencing and accepting the dictatorship and even in some cases thinking like a dictator have been the part of some Iranians lives for many back to back generations and expecting the over night change only by the hands of "democratic governments" is unrealistic, the fact is that, it requires a strong national desire but I like to be optimistic about the future of my country because nothing is impossible.

The precious moments

From Mrs.Behi: My favorite moments are:
When I find the meaningful words that come from the cheerful people, they inspire every part of me and the depth of excitement that I feel in these moments is unbelievable.
When I am at home with my husband and we are watching some good movies from the collection that we made or a number of episodes from some comic series (like Friends) or listening to the new or our favorite songs or telling each other about some new things that we’ve just found out or talking and talking in which we forget about the stuff we were supposed to do.
When my husband and I unconsciously create some new words and gestures that they make our routine chat to amusing and funny one; Sometimes we wonder which one of us was the creator of each of them.
When I have an arrangement to get together with Mr.Behi, it still brings me the exact joy and pleasure that I felt when we used to date about 6 years ago.
When I talk or share my deepest feelings and thoughts with my dearest friend who doesn’t live in Iran anymore. We laugh at unique, funny and unforgettable memories which still are as fresh as their own times.
When I am with my family or talk to them. Sometimes I try to  make sure that all of them are safe and sound especially my parents, I think I try to be assured in order to be able to enjoy my personal life. This could be in favor of myself, I’m wondering if it comes from my selfishness.
And so many other things…, I promise it’s really good to make a list of all the beautiful things that you already have.
I know I should be more appreciative of all these things. As a matter of fact they are my biggest possessions.